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THE COSMIC KICK

THE COSMIC KICK

Following my previous article, ‘Why we stay too long’, I had a fantastic response through DMs and emails from people recognising that they have, indeed, stayed too long in a relationship, job or other circumstances they have outgrown or have become toxic.  Pretty much...
WHY WE STAY TOO LONG!

WHY WE STAY TOO LONG!

Have you ever stayed too long in a job, relationship or other situation that you’ve outgrown or has become toxic?  Or do you have a friend or family member who continually complains about their current circumstances but fails to do anything about it? In my...
3-STEP PROCESS FOR PERSONAL CHANGE

3-STEP PROCESS FOR PERSONAL CHANGE

In my previous two articles, I wrote about trauma with a little ‘t’ (Part 1 and Part 2) explaining how the build-up of small rejections and disappointments as children can often negatively affect us in adulthood. In Part 2, I promised to outline my...
MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS

MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS

On Monday, I posted my most popular LinkedIn post to date. At the time of writing this article, 48 hours later, it’s had over 37,000 views and over 600 likes. If you haven’t seen it, this is the graphic I used:       In addition to the comments,...
ARE YOU A WORRIER? TRY THIS…

ARE YOU A WORRIER? TRY THIS…

I’ve had a bit of an epiphany moment this week that I hope will help those of us who tend to overly worry.  If you have followed my work for a while, you’ll know that I had a tough upbringing. Despite that, I am determined not to live my life as a victim, and to that...
ARE YOU AN OVERTHINKER

ARE YOU AN OVERTHINKER

Overthinking is something to which many of us can relate. In fact, there isn’t a week that goes by without me having a conversation with someone about their ‘out of control’ thoughts. Of course, we can all have unhelpful, negative thoughts from time to time. However,...
3 HIDDEN SIGNS OF STRESS

3 HIDDEN SIGNS OF STRESS

Of course, there are many ways that stress, anxiety, and overwhelm can manifest—for example, poor sleep, appetite issues, comfort/binge eating, inability to concentrate, etc.  However, some lesser-known ones that you may be unaware of are equally harmful. In this...
CHOOSE YOUR MOOD

CHOOSE YOUR MOOD

The topic of ‘mood’ has come up in several conversations in the last couple of weeks. When that happens, I know it’s a sign (a nudge, if you will) that I need to write about it.  For some reason, I’m still surprised when I talk to someone about choosing their mood,...
ARE YOU A PERFECTIONIST?

ARE YOU A PERFECTIONIST?

For as long as I can remember, perfectionism has been an issue for me, not least in my writing. I used to agonise over everything I wrote, trying to make it as accurate as possible before publishing. I would pour endlessly over every word, resulting in a single post...
USE JEALOUSY AS A SIGNPOST

USE JEALOUSY AS A SIGNPOST

Do you ever feel that familiar pang of jealousy when you see someone seemingly doing ‘better’ than you or when you witness another person having, being or doing something you wish you had?  Most of us have experienced it at some time or another. After all, we’re...
I’LL BE HAPPY WHEN…

I’LL BE HAPPY WHEN…

So many of us live our lives waiting to be happy, often without even realising it.  I often hear variations on, ‘I’ll be happy when…’ I get married/divorced I get a new job I get a new partner My kids go to university I have a child/I have another child This project...
HOW TO HACK YOUR HAPPY HORMONES

HOW TO HACK YOUR HAPPY HORMONES

When we undertake certain activities, we release specific combinations of neurochemicals.  All of these chemicals have a purpose. As well as the ones we emit when we are stressed (cortisol and adrenaline – responsible for our flight, fight, freeze response), we...
3 WAYS TO CREATE HABITS THAT STICK

3 WAYS TO CREATE HABITS THAT STICK

In the previous article, I discussed that, contrary to popular belief, it isn’t the number of days that affects habit formation but how often you repeat the action/behaviour as well as the setting/environment. To create a new habit, we have to do the behaviour or...
HOW WE CREATE NEW HABITS

HOW WE CREATE NEW HABITS

Over the years, I’ve heard so many people say that it takes 21 days to create a new habit. However, research has proven that it’s not the number of days but the consistency of effort that donates how quickly we establish a new habit.   So, where does the ‘21 days’...
PROCRASTINATION – MISGUIDED SELF-LOVE

PROCRASTINATION – MISGUIDED SELF-LOVE

In my previous article, ‘Stop Procrastinating’, I discussed the science behind procrastination.  If you haven’t seen it, you can read it here.  To summarise, we procrastinate because our autonomic nervous system (ANS) has perceived a threat.  When that happens, our...
STOP PROCRASTINATING!

STOP PROCRASTINATING!

In the last few posts, I’ve talked about our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) and how it plays a significant role in self-sabotage and imposter syndrome.    However, another aspect of human behaviour that our ANS is also responsible for is procrastination. Our brains...
OVERCOMING SELF-SABOTAGE

OVERCOMING SELF-SABOTAGE

In my previous post, I talked about why we self-sabotage.  If you haven’t seen it yet, you can read it here.  To summarise, our brains were designed with one primary focus; to keep us alive long enough to procreate.  That’s the fundamental purpose of our...
THE SCIENCE BEHIND SELF-SABOTAGE

THE SCIENCE BEHIND SELF-SABOTAGE

Self-sabotage is probably the biggest reason clients give me for not achieving their dreams, and I have to be honest, I am definitely not immune to it myself! I describe my self-sabotage as having one foot on the accelerator and the other on the break.  I’ll get so...
WHAT IS IMPOSTER SYNDROME?

WHAT IS IMPOSTER SYNDROME?

As you may be aware, as well as peak performance coaching and leadership development training, I support clients in achieving their career goals. I help them get clear about what they want, work through any potential blockers and teach them any essential skills they...
HOW TO MAKE RESOLUTIONS STICK

HOW TO MAKE RESOLUTIONS STICK

Research suggests that New Year resolutions typically get abandoned by 15 January!  So, if you set NY resolutions this year, or if you are setting new goals, here are my top tips to help you follow through.    1. Set small goals or break larger ones into smaller...
3 WAYS TO COMBAT WINTER BLUES

3 WAYS TO COMBAT WINTER BLUES

Apparently, yesterday was ‘Blue Monday’.  The day when, typically, many of us are at our lowest ebb, given that Christmas and New Year celebrations are well and truly over, and we are back to the routine, without even an inkling that Spring is on its way. I have to be...
PEOPLE-PLEASING & FESTIVE SELF-CARE

PEOPLE-PLEASING & FESTIVE SELF-CARE

Earlier this week, I wrote an post about setting boundaries, and I’ve had such a tremendous response that I wanted to add a bit that I took out because I thought it was too long (apparently, we only like to read for 3 mins or less!).   People Pleasing (PP)...
HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES

HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES

In this post, I’m digging deep and sharing a bit of my personal story with you. I want to do it because I think it’s important for you to understand that my life has not been a bed of roses and that many of the things I share with you come from experiencing my...
BAD MOODS ARE INFECTIOUS

BAD MOODS ARE INFECTIOUS

Over the past week, I’ve been asking my followers, clients and delegates to tell me their biggest challenges. Unsurprisingly, one of the top ones came out as how to take time for yourself and avoid burnout without feeling guilty or selfish. It’s a huge topic,...
WHY PRACTISING SELF-LOVE IS SO HARD

WHY PRACTISING SELF-LOVE IS SO HARD

If you’ve read my first book, ‘Thoughts Become Things’; you’ve been coached by me or been a delegate on one of my many training sessions or webinars over the last 12 years, you’ll likely know that I had a tough upbringing.   My parents are, without doubt,...
DO AFFIRMATIONS WORK?

DO AFFIRMATIONS WORK?

  ‘Do affirmations work?’ is probably the most frequently asked question I’ve had from the c2,500 participants that have been through my ‘Resilience/Mental Toughness’ webinars in the last 15-months.   For many people, I’m sure that affirmations...
3 WAYS TO COMBAT EXCESSIVE WORRY

3 WAYS TO COMBAT EXCESSIVE WORRY

  For many people, excessive worry is a part of their everyday lives; so much so, that I frequently hear, ‘I worry if I have nothing to worry about!’. Why do we worry?   The majority of excessive worriers learn this behaviour as a child.  Typically they have...
WHY CANDIDATES WILL SAY ANYTHING TO GET THAT JOB

WHY CANDIDATES WILL SAY ANYTHING TO GET THAT JOB

Candidates will do almost anything to convince the recruiter that they are the best person for a position, even if they don’t really want it or they know it isn’t suitable.   Why is that? PEOPLE WANT TO BE PICKED!   The job seeker doesn’t ask, ‘Is this...
FEEL GUILTY TAKING TIME FOR YOU?

FEEL GUILTY TAKING TIME FOR YOU?

Unfortunately, so many people do feel guilty for taking time out for themselves. However, it’s a false economy. We’ve all heard the saying, ‘You can’t drink from an empty cup’, and it’s so true.  When I ask clients who are near burnout, what amount of time they take...
BIG GIRLS DON’T CRY (AT WORK!)

BIG GIRLS DON’T CRY (AT WORK!)

Recently, I’ve seen a few posts on LinkedIn debating whether showing emotions, i.e. crying at work, is socially acceptable; or more precisely, whether women crying at work is acceptable. To be clear, I’m not writing this article to throw my two-penneth into the...
TOP 3 CV MISTAKES

TOP 3 CV MISTAKES

  I’m happy to say that over the past 11 years, since setting up my own coaching business, I’ve helped thousands of job hunters find and land their dream jobs through my corporate outplacement programmes and online courses.   During that time, as you would...
THE STRESS RESPONSE

THE STRESS RESPONSE

In the ‘Building Resilience’ webinars, I’ve delivered to c1000 people during lockdown; I cover how your body reacts to stress, i.e. The Stress Response.  Through the feedback I’ve received, it’s become apparent that many people don’t understand our...
5 SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM

5 SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM

During lockdown, I’ve been lucky to be able to help c1000 people manage their emotional well-being through my popular ‘Building Resilience’ webinars.  Having exposure to so many people has highlighted several common reactions to the excessive amount of change...
VIRTUAL MEETING TOP TIPS

VIRTUAL MEETING TOP TIPS

We are all using virtual conferencing and video calls more than ever before, myself included.  I’ve always prided myself on holding predominantly face to face coaching and training sessions (I’m an avid watcher of body language and facial expressions– they tell me far...
5 TOP TIPS FOR WORKING FROM HOME

5 TOP TIPS FOR WORKING FROM HOME

Many of my clients have been asking me for advice and guidance that they can give to their employees to help them work from home.   I’ve recorded a video to giving my 5 top tips for making working from home as easy and productive as possible.   Click...
ARE YOUR EMOTIONS NORMAL?

ARE YOUR EMOTIONS NORMAL?

Due to the exceptional circumstances we find ourselves in at the present time, I’ve recorded a video that explains why the feelings and emotions you’re experiencing are entirely normal.     I also give some practical guidance and top tips to help you...
BUILDING RESILIENCE – MANAGING EXCESSIVE WORRY

BUILDING RESILIENCE – MANAGING EXCESSIVE WORRY

Excessive worrying is a huge issue for many people.  In a group of fourteen people (my usual workshop size), there is always at least two excessive worriers who will admit to it! It has been proven beyond doubt that ‘the mind can’t tell the difference between...
THE CURSE OF PERFECTIONISM

THE CURSE OF PERFECTIONISM

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always tried to be as perfect as possible in most areas, not least, in my writing. I used to agonise over everything I wrote attempting to make it as accurate as possible before publishing.  I would pore endlessly over a...
GOALS – WHAT’S STOPPING YOU?

GOALS – WHAT’S STOPPING YOU?

I’m happy to say that I had a very productive 2018 and have met or exceeded most of my goals including writing three new books and launching my ‘Your Dream Job’ online training programme, amongst others.  No mean feat I can tell you, given my crazy schedule, and yet I...
DREAD NETWORKING?

DREAD NETWORKING?

Top tips for taking the pain out of networking…   Being able to network effectively, especially when you’re job hunting (up to 70% of roles are found through people we know) is an essential skill which can significantly boost your career prospects.  We...
FOCUS ON WHAT MATTERS…

FOCUS ON WHAT MATTERS…

Over the weekend, I noticed that I was dwelling (or rather ‘obsessing’) on what I’ve not got rather than what I have.   When finally awoke from my negativity stupor, it occurred to me just how rubbish I was making myself feel. As we know, like attracts like (its...
EXPAND YOUR INTUITION

EXPAND YOUR INTUITION

If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t!   Intuition is something that we all have and is rarely, if ever, wrong.  It’s a throwback to our cave man days; a built-in safety mechanism designed to keep us from harm, and yet,  we often disregard...

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