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Do you find yourself biting your tongue at work, afraid to speak up, share ideas, or admit mistakes? You might be experiencing a lack of psychological safety. In this video, I’ll explain: ✅ What psychological safety really means ✅ How to recognise when it’s missing ✅ How it affects your confidence and wellbeing ✅ Why it’s so common in today’s workplaces If this sounds familiar, don’t miss my related video, “Being Bullied at Work? Do This”, where I share practical steps you can take to protect yourself and start rebuilding your confidence. #PsychologicalSafety #WorkplaceWellbeing #ToxicWorkplace #CareerConfidence #LeadershipDevelopment #WorkplaceMentalHealth 👋 Hi, I’m Jo Banks — Executive Coach, Leadership Development Trainer & YouTuber. I spent almost 20 years as an HR professional before setting up my coaching practice 16 years ago. I help people just like you build more fulfilling careers, healthier relationships, and happier lives through down-to-earth psychology and coaching tools. 👍 If you found this video helpful, please give it a like, leave a comment to let me know your thoughts, and share it with anyone who might benefit. Your support really helps the channel grow and reach more people who need this kind of content. #projectionatwork #publichumiliation #professionalcomebacks #workplaceconfidence #dealingwithtoxicpeople #workplacepsychology FYI, if you're working with someone who you think has narcissistic traits, I have a FREE factsheet available. To claim yours, visit: https://jobanks.net/narcissism-in-the-workplace-factsheet/ TIMESTAMPS 00:56 - Introduction 01:36 - What it Means 02:32 - How it Feels 04:21 - Why it Matters 05:52 - Why it's Missing 08:29 - What to Do... 09:29 - The Wrap-up 10:30 - What Next? 11:30 - Outro MENTIONED IN VIDEO: ❤️ 111 - Dreading Monday? Here’s How to Beat the Sunday Scaries: https://youtu.be/K7_QfgmG7D8 ❤️ 140 - Being Bullied at Work? Do This...: https://youtu.be/aKfpRJkMdzw OTHER VIDEOS ON NARCISSISM & BULLYING ❤️ 087 - What is Psychological PROJECTION and How to Spot It: https://youtu.be/e2yXG1nE4Ds ❤️ 034 - How To Set Boundaries At Work (And Why You Should): https://youtu.be/GnkFVQSzKJo ❤️ 122 - Gaslighting vs Honest Feedback: How to Tell the Difference: https://youtu.be/sHT1SY6nQoY ❤️ 001 - 7 Clear Signs Your BOSS or Co-worker is Actively SABOTAGING Your Success: https://youtu.be/erhCtPKsGOY ❤️ 028 - How to spot and deal with a PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE boss or co-worker: https://youtu.be/hYa2SlB6ZrA ❤️ 031 - 5 REASONS why your boss/coworker is UNDERMINING YOU and what to do about it: https://youtu.be/uPTQir8i3CM ❤️ '5 Reasons Why Bullies Bully' video: https://youtu.be/h8ieJlT_DNE?si=zqb6xX5WWxqAw-qR ❤️ '5 Signs Your Boss is a Bully: https://youtu.be/8HbyzNOFYgE ❤️ Narcissism in the Workplace mini-series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDNJr70wG7KemNcKoujWHGcwAR8DOOj_B MY WEBSITE: https://jobanks.net CONTACT ME: https://jobanks.net/contact ONLINE TRAINING: https://what-next.teachable.com FREEBIES: https://linktr.ee/jobanks SHOP: https://jobanks-shop.fourthwall.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA: ❤️ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-banks-738b4412/ ❤️ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jobanks.coach/ ❤️ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jobanks.net ❤️ Twitter - https://twitter.com/JoBanksCoach Disclaimer: Content on this channel is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified professional and never delay doing so because of something you’ve seen here. Actions you take based on this content are at your own risk. Views expressed by guests are their own. References to products or services are not endorsements unless stated. © What Next Consultancy (UK) Ltd (trading as Jo Banks). All rights reserved. FTC Legal Disclaimer: Some links may be affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
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Have you ever been embarrassed, undermined, or made fun of in front of colleagues or clients? Public humiliation at work can feel awful — but it’s rarely about you. In this video, I’ll explain why people do it (including the psychology of projection), and share 20 professional comebacks you can use to protect your confidence and reputation — without losing your cool. You’ll learn: ✅ The real reasons people try to humiliate others at work ✅ How projection works and why it’s not really about you ✅ 20 professional, calm comebacks to shut it down instantly ✅ How to regain control and come across as confident, not confrontational If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, “I wish I’d said something,” this one’s for you. 👋 Hi, I’m Jo Banks — Executive Coach, Leadership Development Trainer & YouTuber. I spent almost 20 years as an HR professional before setting up my coaching practice 16 years ago. I help people just like you build more fulfilling careers, healthier relationships, and happier lives through down-to-earth psychology and coaching tools. 👍 If you found this video helpful, please give it a like, leave a comment to let me know your thoughts, and share it with anyone who might benefit. Your support really helps the channel grow and reach more people who need this kind of content. #projectionatwork #publichumiliation #professionalcomebacks #workplaceconfidence #dealingwithtoxicpeople #workplacepsychology FYI, if you're working with someone who you think has narcissistic traits, I have a FREE factsheet available. To claim yours, visit: https://jobanks.net/narcissism-in-the-workplace-factsheet/ TIMESTAMPS 01:19 - Why People Do It 04:00 - Examples of Humiliation 04:53 - Why it Hurts So Much 06:33 - How to Respond 08:11 - 10 Diplomatic Comebacks 09:21 - 10 Strong Comebacks 10:48 - Bonus Strategy 12:32 - What to Do Next 13:23 - The Wrap-up 14:18 - What Next? 15:18 - Outro MENTIONED IN VIDEO: ❤️ 087 - What is Psychological PROJECTION and How to Spot It: https://youtu.be/e2yXG1nE4Ds ❤️ 140 - Being Bullied at Work? Do This...: https://youtu.be/aKfpRJkMdzw OTHER VIDEOS ON NARCISSISM & BULLYING ❤️ 062 - GREY ROCK - No 1 STRATEGY for Dealing with NARCISSISTIC/BULLYING Bosses or Co-workers: https://youtu.be/cSIdRqu2KxI ❤️ 034 - How To Set Boundaries At Work (And Why You Should): https://youtu.be/GnkFVQSzKJo ❤️ 122 - Gaslighting vs Honest Feedback: How to Tell the Difference: https://youtu.be/sHT1SY6nQoY ❤️ 001 - 7 Clear Signs Your BOSS or Co-worker is Actively SABOTAGING Your Success: https://youtu.be/erhCtPKsGOY ❤️ 028 - How to spot and deal with a PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE boss or co-worker: https://youtu.be/hYa2SlB6ZrA ❤️ 031 - 5 REASONS why your boss/coworker is UNDERMINING YOU and what to do about it: https://youtu.be/uPTQir8i3CM ❤️ '5 Reasons Why Bullies Bully' video: https://youtu.be/h8ieJlT_DNE?si=zqb6xX5WWxqAw-qR ❤️ '5 Signs Your Boss is a Bully: https://youtu.be/8HbyzNOFYgE ❤️ Narcissism in the Workplace mini-series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDNJr70wG7KemNcKoujWHGcwAR8DOOj_B MY WEBSITE: https://jobanks.net CONTACT ME: https://jobanks.net/contact ONLINE TRAINING: https://what-next.teachable.com FREEBIES: https://linktr.ee/jobanks SHOP: https://jobanks-shop.fourthwall.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA: ❤️ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-banks-738b4412/ ❤️ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jobanks.coach/ ❤️ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jobanks.net ❤️ Twitter - https://twitter.com/JoBanksCoach Disclaimer: Content on this channel is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified professional and never delay doing so because of something you’ve seen here. Actions you take based on this content are at your own risk. Views expressed by guests are their own. References to products or services are not endorsements unless stated. © What Next Consultancy (UK) Ltd (trading as Jo Banks). All rights reserved. FTC Legal Disclaimer: Some links may be affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
Have you ever wondered why some colleagues constantly seek reassurance, while others seem cold or emotionally distant? Or why certain people overreact to even the smallest bit of feedback? In today’s video, I’m diving into how attachment styles—formed in childhood—play out in the workplace. You’ll learn the 4 main types (Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganised), how they show up in everyday work situations, and what you can do to improve your working relationships, whether you're a manager or team member. Understanding this can help reduce stress, build trust, and create a healthier work culture—for everyone involved. 👋 Hi, I’m Jo Banks—Executive Coach, Leadership Development Trainer & YouTuber. I spent almost 20 years as an HR professional before setting up my coaching practice 16 years ago. I help people just like you build more fulfilling careers, healthier relationships, and happier lives through down-to-earth psychology and coaching tools. 👍 If you found this video helpful, please give it a like, leave a comment to let me know your thoughts, and share it with anyone who might benefit. Your support really helps the channel grow and reach more people who need this kind of content. #AttachmentStyles #WorkplacePsychology #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipDevelopment #TraumaInformedWorkplace #HealthyWorkRelationships #JoBanks Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/jobanks TIMESTAMPS 00:59 - Introduction 01:45 - What is Attachment Theory? 02:59 - Secure Attachment 03:56 - Anxious Attachment 05:17 - Avoidant Attachment 06:43 - Disorganised Attachment 08:10 - Why it Matters 09:18 - What About You? 10:12 - Can Styles Change 11:05 - The Wrap-up 12:02 - What Next? 12:51 - Outro MENTIONED IN VIDEO: ❤️ 043 - 5 clear signs of a LACK of PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY in the WORKPLACE: https://youtu.be/7GmE5hpu_f8 OTHER USEFUL VIDEOS: ❤️ 096 - Why You OVEREXPLAIN and How to Stop It! https://youtu.be/23qNH8p7iJA ❤️ 076 - The Truth Behind OVEREXPLAINING and How to Break Free: https://youtu.be/1N-hYcT6srU❤️034 - How To Set Boundaries At Work (And Why You Should): https://youtu.be/GnkFVQSzKJo ❤️ 124 - Why You Keep Repeating the Same Mistakes!: https://youtu.be/8WxePepXIWk ❤️ 123 - How to Read People - Increase Your Emotional Intelligence!: https://youtu.be/3AzmScty99E ❤️ 054 - How to Silence Your INNER CRITIC (Critical Inner Voice) and Nurture SELF-COMPASSION: https://youtu.be/-78KYGNv71Q MY WEBSITE: https://jobanks.net CONTACT ME: https://jobanks.net/contact ONLINE TRAINING: https://what-next.teachable.com FREEBIES: https://linktr.ee/jobanks SHOP: https://jobanks-shop.fourthwall.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA: ❤️ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-banks-738b4412/ ❤️ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jobanks.coach/ ❤️ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jobanks.net ❤️ Twitter - https://twitter.com/JoBanksCoach Disclaimer: Content on this channel is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified professional and never delay doing so because of something you’ve seen here. Actions you take based on this content are at your own risk. Views expressed by guests are their own. References to products or services are not endorsements unless stated. © What Next Consultancy (UK) Ltd (trading as Jo Banks). All rights reserved. FTC Legal Disclaimer: Some links may be affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
Do you constantly feel like everyone else’s problems somehow become yours? Whether it’s at work, in your family, or among friends, you're the one people rely on to fix things. But it’s exhausting, isn’t it? In today’s video, I’m breaking down the psychology behind why you attract other people’s issues—and how to finally stop. We’ll explore: ✔️ Where the “fixer” pattern comes from ✔️ Why you feel responsible for everyone else ✔️ The emotional toll it’s taking on you ✔️ How to break the cycle and set healthier boundaries If you’re feeling drained, resentful, or overwhelmed from carrying everyone else’s emotional baggage—this video is for you. 👇 Let me know in the comments if this resonates. Are you ready to let go of being the fixer? 👋 Hi, I’m Jo Banks—Executive Coach, Leadership Development Trainer & YouTuber. I spent almost 20 years as an HR professional before setting up my coaching practice 16 years ago. I help people just like you build more fulfilling careers, healthier relationships, and happier lives through down-to-earth psychology and coaching tools. 👍 If you found this video helpful, please give it a like, leave a comment to let me know your thoughts, and share it with anyone who might benefit. Your support really helps the channel grow and reach more people who need this kind of content. #PeoplePleasing #FixerMentality #EmotionalBoundaries #StopOverfunctioning #CodependencyRecovery #SetBoundaries #SelfWorth #JoBanks Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/jobanks TIMESTAMPS 01:23 - Why You Need to 'Fix' 03:52 - The Hidden Costs 05:07 - Fixing the Need to Fix 05:11 - Recognise the Pattern 06:15 - What You're Trying to Do 07:21 - How to Hold Space 08:27 - Boundaries 09:42 - The Wrap-up 10:38 - What Next? 11:28 - Outro OTHER USEFUL VIDEOS: ❤️ 096 - Why You OVEREXPLAIN and How to Stop It! https://youtu.be/23qNH8p7iJA ❤️ 076 - The Truth Behind OVEREXPLAINING and How to Break Free: https://youtu.be/1N-hYcT6srU❤️034 - How To Set Boundaries At Work (And Why You Should): https://youtu.be/GnkFVQSzKJo ❤️ 124 - Why You Keep Repeating the Same Mistakes!: https://youtu.be/8WxePepXIWk ❤️ 123 - How to Read People - Increase Your Emotional Intelligence!: https://youtu.be/3AzmScty99E ❤️ 054 - How to Silence Your INNER CRITIC (Critical Inner Voice) and Nurture SELF-COMPASSION: https://youtu.be/-78KYGNv71Q MY WEBSITE: https://jobanks.net CONTACT ME: https://jobanks.net/contact ONLINE TRAINING: https://what-next.teachable.com FREEBIES: https://linktr.ee/jobanks SHOP: https://jobanks-shop.fourthwall.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA: ❤️ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-banks-738b4412/ ❤️ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jobanks.coach/ ❤️ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jobanks.net ❤️ Twitter - https://twitter.com/JoBanksCoach Disclaimer: Content on this channel is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified professional and never delay doing so because of something you’ve seen here. Actions you take based on this content are at your own risk. Views expressed by guests are their own. References to products or services are not endorsements unless stated. © What Next Consultancy (UK) Ltd (trading as Jo Banks). All rights reserved. FTC Legal Disclaimer: Some links may be affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
Have you ever had a colleague or boss push your buttons until you snap, then act like you’re the problem? That’s reactive abuse—a sneaky form of workplace manipulation that can wreck your confidence, damage your reputation, and leave you doubting yourself. In this video, I’ll break down: ✅ What reactive abuse looks like at work ✅ How to spot the warning signs ✅ 5 practical ways to deal with it (including comebacks you can use right away) ✅ How to protect your mental health and professional reputation If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction thinking, “Hang on… what just happened?” this is for you. 👋 Hi, I’m Jo Banks — Executive Coach, Leadership Development Trainer, Author & YouTuber. I spent almost 20 years as an HR professional before setting up my coaching practice 16 years ago. I help people just like you build more fulfilling careers, healthier relationships, and happier lives through down-to-earth psychology and coaching tools. 👍 If you found this video helpful, please give it a like, leave a comment to let me know your thoughts, and share it with anyone who might benefit. Your support really helps the channel grow and reach more people who need this kind of content. 🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more tips on mental health, leadership, relationships, and personal growth. #reactiveabuse #workplacetoxicity #emotionalmanipulation #gaslighting #workplacewellness #careercoaching #leadershipdevelopment #conflictmanagement #professionalboundaries #mentalhealthatwork FYI, if you're working with someone who you think has narcissistic traits, I have a FREE factsheet available. To claim yours, visit: https://jobanks.net/narcissism-in-the-workplace-factsheet/ TIMESTAMPS 01:02 - What is Reactive Abuse? 02:26 - How to Spot Reactive Abuse 02:35 - Walking on Eggshells 02:48 - They Look Innocent 03:05 - They Use Your Triggers 03:18 - Twisting the Narrative 03:30 - You Apologise 03:57 - 5 Strategies 04:19 - Document Everything 05:15 - Use Grey Rock 06:05 - Set Boundaries 06:49 - Flip the Narrative 07:32 - Get Support 08:25 - The Wrap-up 08:48 - What Next? 10:37 - Outro MENTIONED IN VIDEO: ❤️ 140 - Being Bullied at Work? Do This...: https://youtu.be/aKfpRJkMdzw ❤️ 062 - GREY ROCK - No 1 STRATEGY for Dealing with NARCISSISTIC/BULLYING Bosses or Co-workers: https://youtu.be/cSIdRqu2KxI OTHER VIDEOS ON NARCISSISM & BULLYING ❤️ 034 - How To Set Boundaries At Work (And Why You Should): https://youtu.be/GnkFVQSzKJo ❤️ 122 - Gaslighting vs Honest Feedback: How to Tell the Difference: https://youtu.be/sHT1SY6nQoY ❤️ 099 - Why Does Your Manager MICROMANAGE?: https://youtu.be/etp43V9fdMg ❤️ 001 - 7 Clear Signs Your BOSS or Co-worker is Actively SABOTAGING Your Success: https://youtu.be/erhCtPKsGOY ❤️ 028 - How to spot and deal with a PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE boss or co-worker: https://youtu.be/hYa2SlB6ZrA ❤️ 031 - 5 REASONS why your boss/coworker is UNDERMINING YOU and what to do about it: https://youtu.be/uPTQir8i3CM ❤️ '5 Reasons Why Bullies Bully' video: https://youtu.be/h8ieJlT_DNE?si=zqb6xX5WWxqAw-qR ❤️ '5 Signs Your Boss is a Bully: https://youtu.be/8HbyzNOFYgE ❤️ Narcissism in the Workplace mini-series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDNJr70wG7KemNcKoujWHGcwAR8DOOj_B MY WEBSITE: https://jobanks.net CONTACT ME: https://jobanks.net/contact ONLINE TRAINING: https://what-next.teachable.com FREEBIES: https://linktr.ee/jobanks SHOP: https://jobanks-shop.fourthwall.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA: ❤️ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-banks-738b4412/ ❤️ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jobanks.coach/ ❤️ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jobanks.net ❤️ Twitter - https://twitter.com/JoBanksCoach Disclaimer: Content on this channel is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified professional and never delay doing so because of something you’ve seen here. Actions you take based on this content are at your own risk. Views expressed by guests are their own. References to products or services are not endorsements unless stated. © What Next Consultancy (UK) Ltd (trading as Jo Banks). All rights reserved. FTC Legal Disclaimer: Some links may be affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
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