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Jo Banks

5 hours ago

Happiness is a choice. Your happiness does not depend on anything or anyone external; it is inside you right now! Many people mistakenly believethey will finally be happy when they achieve or attain something outside themselves, e.g. the ideal partner, baby, divorce, marriage, newhouse/car/kitchen/bathroom, different job or promotion, etc. When we project our happiness into the future (i.e. when we say or think, 'I'll be happy when…'), we create strong neural pathways, conditioning our nervous system to believe that happiness willalways be in the future. But that isn't true. You can be happy now if you consciously choose it. Practising gratitude is a great way to tap into your innate happiness. According to new clinical studies,creating a habit of acknowledging the positive things you have in your life and feeling genuinely thankful for them alters our brainwaves. Start a gratitude journal. Each morning/ evening, note down three things you're grateful for. When you do this, you will condition yourself for happiness NOW.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' clickhttps://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry#stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation#anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes#motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

1 day ago

Self-sabotage is your subconscious way of controlling the outcome. I often also describe it as misguided self-love.Our subconscious knows that things will change if we achieve our goals, and any change is scary for our autonomic nervous system.So, it's not a surprise that we self-sabotage.I see it frequently with clients wanted to lose weight. They get very near their goal and then sabotage. That's because, in some way, being their goal weight is subconsciously unsafe, and so they sabotage it.Happens with job hunting, too. They do their CV, apply for jobs and may even go for an interview, but blow it (usually by not doing adequate preparation).Again, the subconscious is troubled by the threat of change and the client self-sabotages.In what way are you sabotaging your goals?For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #selfsabotage #success #failure ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 days ago

Have you ever got up in the morning in a good mood, only for something relatively small to happen, triggering a negative downward spiral?It's unlikely that the situation caused you to feel bad, but instead, what you subconsciously thought about it.When you wake up each morning, consciously decide how you want to think and feel and regularly check in with yourself throughout the day to ensure that you're sticking to it.If something negative happens, you can choose not to let it affect you. Note it down as a trigger, and then let it go.Also, be aware that you affect the people around you with your mood (positively or negatively), as behaviour breeds behaviour.Whatever emotion you are experiencing, you will be emitting through your physiology, and others will pick up on it; we don’t even have to say anything for people to guess how we’re feeling.No one wants to be considered a 'mood hoover', a 'doom monger' or a 'psychic vampire', nor do we want to spend time with someone like that, so be mindful of how you might impact others.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

3 days ago

So many people have amazing goals but convince themselves that they are unachievable. Usually because of fear of failure.What if you felt the fear and did it anyway?!For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #goals#goalsetting #goalachievement#success ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

4 days ago

Our thinking styles and reactions to people and situations are typically learnt when we are children, up to the age of seven.After that age, our brain functioning changes. We learn our thoughts and responses in two ways: firstly, from our primary caregivers and second, through trial and error.As adults, unless we consciously decide to do something different, we will think and behave like we were when we were children.One of the things that I like to do when I recognise that my thoughts and reactions are a little ‘off’ is to get curious about them.I’ll ask myself:1. Why did I think that?2. What was the positive intention behind that thought?3. What triggered it?4. Was my reaction valid?5. Was there a better way to deal with or think about it?Our brains will continue to think and react automatically until we bring some conscious attention to it.Often, that focus allows us to recognise when what we’re doing isn't serving us, making it much easier to change.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

5 days ago

One thing I've learned running my own business for 15 years is that you have to reset and refocus continually. It never stops.I've had many setbacks along the way. More than you can probably imagine. It definitely hasn't been an easy ride. But with each failure, I've learned a whole heap of new skills that are never wasted.You can restart and refocus at any time.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

6 days ago

Someone had found and reposted an old version of my original 'happy hormones list' on LinkedIn this week, so I thought I'd post a more colourful, updated version as a quick reminder that it really isn't that hard to 'hack your happy hormones'!For a copy of my FREE 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones', click https://jobanks.net/happy-hormones-guide/#happyhormones#serotonin#oxytocin#endorphins#dopamine ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

6 days ago

The inner critic, that internal voice capable of fostering self-doubt and negative self-talk, can often find its roots in early experiences and interactions with parents and primary caregivers. The echoes of upbringing often reverberate into adulthood, shaping how we perceive ourselves and navigate the world. In my latest article, we delve into the parent's role in their adult child's negative inner critic, examining the potential origins and impact, plus tips for how to make your inner critic your ally.Click the link to read or listen to the audio version: https://jobanks.net/2024/04/15/what-is-your-inner-critic-and-how-to-silence-it/ #innercritic#internalvoice#negativeselftalk#negativeinnercritic ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

6 days ago

A situation is just that, a situation; it's entirely neutral. The meaning we put to it makes it positive or negative, and we get meaning from our filters.We develop our filters (values/beliefs/rules) initially through our early programming (watching and copying our primary caregivers) and later through our life experiences.When you take a step back from a negative situation and challenge your initial perception, you'll likely find that you were reacting automatically to a specific stimulus, i.e., producing a 'programmed' response.However, you can override outdated conditioning by actively reframing and asking empowering questions such as, 'What could be good about this?'You often can't stop a situation from happening, but you do have complete control over what it means to you, how you feel about it, and how you react.It's a matter of challenging your old perceptions and conditioned reactions and consciously choosing to think and act differently. Each time you do, you'll create a new neural pathway or deepen an existing one.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

7 days ago

The inner critic, that internal voice capable of fostering self-doubt and negative self-talk, can often find its roots in early experiences and interactions with parents and primary caregivers. The echoes of upbringing often reverberate into adulthood, shaping how we perceive ourselves and navigate the world. In this video, we delve into the parent's role in their adult child's negative inner critic, examining the potential origins and impact, plus tips for how to make your inner critic your ally.Click link to watch: https://youtu.be/6cE3If_fgQM#innercritic #internalvoice#negativeselftalk ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

1 week ago

If you want to get even better at what you're doing or achieve more, surround yourself with people who are doing and excelling at what you want to do.Think about it: if you want to get better at, say, tennis, playing someone with fewer skills than you will not increase your skills.In addition, other people's limiting beliefs will rub off on you the more time you spend with them. Surround yourself with people who want the same type of life you do.LEVEL UP!For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

1 week ago

Recognising your triggers (or even that you have them) is a great tool to gain control over negative or distorted thinking.Certain people or situations often trigger an adverse reaction in us that we may not be aware of.For the next three days:❤️ Tune into your internal dialogue and notice anything negative you say to yourself, especially when you feel negatively about a person or situation.❤️ Write it down and note what was happening around you that could have triggered it. Was it something someone said, something you read or just an errant thought that popped into your head, or is it a thought you repeatedly have, i.e. an automatic one? Include as much detail as possible.Within three days (you can do longer if you wish), you'll likely start to recognise patterns in your thinking and behaviour.Once you're aware of what those triggers are, you'll be more able to pre-empt them and create effective plans to deal with or avoid those people or situations altogether.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones', click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

1 week ago

A good point to remember if you're being subjected to any type of bullying.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #narcissist #narcissistboss #narcissisticcoworker #narcissisticabuse #narcissistrecovery #sociopath #sociopathrecovery #npd #psychopath #psychopathrecovery #bully #bullying #toxicenvironment#toxicworkplace #CPTSD #toxicworkenvironments #gaslighting #triangulation #flyingmonkeys #traumabond #narcissisticabuserecovery ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

1 week ago

If you keep having the same negative thoughts or are worried about something repeatedly, check to see if it carries a message.Is there something you need to do or some lesson you need to learn or heed, but you're just not doing it?A thought with a message or where an action is required will return until you do something about it. Trying to avoid it or hoping it will go away rarely works; it keeps returning for a reason.Therefore, where possible, you should deal with it immediately, or if it's not something you can resolve that day, put a plan in place and then choose to stop worrying about it, safe in the knowledge that you have it under control.If a repetitive thought doesn't have a message, it's likely to be automatic, i.e., you've had it so often that you don't even have to think consciously to create it.Remember, you create your thoughts, and you can control them, changing any that aren’t serving you for more realistic ones.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones', click https://linktr.ee/jobanks#stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 weeks ago

If you've been following me for a while on any of my channels, you’ll know that one subject I discuss frequently is toxic work environments. If you haven’t yet noticed, there are eerie parallels between cults and toxic work environments or toxic bosses. While one may seem extreme and the other relatively mundane, the underlying mechanisms share striking similarities. In my latest blog post, I'm delving into the unsettling world where manipulation, control, and toxicity reign supreme and discussing the striking similarities between cults and toxicity in the workplace.Click the link to read or listen to the audio version: https://jobanks.net/2024/04/…#Cults#amiinacult#cultrecovery#toxicworkenvironment#toxicboss#bullyingboss#narcissism#narcissisticleader#narcissisticboss ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 weeks ago

When you start to tell the truth about the abuse you've been suffering, the abuser's gaslighting techniques will hit an all-time high!When that happens, they'll undoubtedly use the DARVO technique:DenyAttack (counterattack)Reverse Victim and OffenderTo learn more about DARVO, I have a full video on YouTube. Click the link to watch: https://youtu.be/5ADwcz17ayo#narcissist #narcissistboss #narcissisticcoworker #narcissisticabuse #narcissistrecovery #sociopath #sociopathrecovery #npd #psychopath #psychopathrecovery #bully #bullying #toxicenvironment#toxicworkplace #CPTSD #toxicworkenvironments #gaslighting #triangulation #flyingmonkeys #traumabond #narcissisticabuserecovery ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 weeks ago

If you've been following me for a while on any of my channels, you’ll know that one subject I discuss frequently is toxic work environments. If you haven’t yet noticed, there are eerie parallels between cults and toxic work environments or toxic bosses. While one may seem extreme and the other relatively mundane, the underlying mechanisms share striking similarities. In my latest video, I'm delving into the unsettling world where manipulation, control, and toxicity reign supreme and discussing the striking similarities between cults and toxicity in the workplace.Click the link to watch:https://youtu.be/ytRuXeTRO6k#Cults#amiinacult#cultrecovery#toxicworkenvironment#toxicboss#bullyingboss#narcissism#narcissisticleader#narcissisticboss ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 weeks ago

Distorted, unrealistic thinking patterns can often result in worry, upset and overall general negativity. In the extreme, it can lead to depression and anxiety disorders. We don't wake up one morning with distorted thinking. It's typically conditioned/programmed, built up over many years. However, it’s rarely a reflection of reality.Distorted thinking can also become automatic.If you recognise that you may be distorting your thinking, ask yourself the following questions:1. Which distortion am I applying? (See my previous post)2. What evidence do I have that it's true?3. What is a more realistic thought? Once you bring consciousness to your thoughts, recognising where you may be distorting them, you can interrupt those patterns by actively choosing more realistic ones to replace them.For freebies, including my 30-page mini-course on 'How to Hack Your Happy Hormones' click https://linktr.ee/jobanks #stress #stressfree #worry #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #motivation #anxiety #inspirationalquotes #inspirationalsayings #motivationalquotes #motivationalsayings ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 weeks ago

Despite what I say in the slogan, none of that is an excuse to treat others badly. We can all work on ourselves. One thing I often see is people thinking it's OK to treat someone badly over and over again as long as they apologise afterwards.That's not OK, that's abuse! Get help so that you don't have to keep apologising. Therapy is now widely available.If therapy seems a step too far, coaching is often more palatable. I often work with clients wanting to change their reactions and overall behaviour.To get my FREE 30-page guide on How to Hack Your Happy Hormones', and other freebies, click Link in Bio........#stressfree #stressrelief #anxiety#stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #wellbeing #positivity #positivequotes #inspiration #inspirationalquotes ... See MoreSee Less

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Jo Banks

2 weeks ago

In my latest blog post, I’m delving into the concept of Post-Traumatic Growth, exploring what it is, why it's beneficial, and how you can harness it to reframe negative situations into catalysts for personal development.Post-traumatic growth (PTG) is a psychological concept that describes the positive psychological changes and personal development that individuals may experience as a result of facing and coping with significant adversity or trauma. While trauma can bring immense pain and suffering, PTG illuminates the possibility of positive transformation, growth, resilience and positive transformation emerging from the darkest of experiences in the aftermath of challenging life events.To read the post, click the link: https://jobanks.net/2024/04/09/how-to-use-post-traumatic-growth-to-unlock-inner-strength/#trauma #posttraumaticgrowth #ptg #traumacoach#traumarecovery#traumacoach#littlettrauma#recoveringfromtrauma ... See MoreSee Less

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