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Jo Banks

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Imposter syndrome is something pretty much everyone experiences at some point. In my experience, there are two primary triggers: 1. Finding what you do easy, which makes you think that you must be doing it wrong, and at some point, you'll get found out. Usually, this is because you grew up hearing that work should be hard. However, if you find something you love, that comes naturally to you, it won't necessarily be hard. 2. You find yourself in a job or at a level of seniority that at some point, you could only aspire to. Although you know you can do it on one level, your insecurities come to the surface and you literally ‘wait to be found out’. Imposter syndrome is typically a combination of our early programming, the stories we tell ourselves, and our limiting self-beliefs. Getting curious about where your thoughts and feelings originate, is a great way to understand your outdated drivers; once you’re aware, it’s easier to change to something more realistic. Motivational Moment No 50 - Imposter Syndrome. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 50 - Imposter Syndrome
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There’s a huge difference between constructive feedback and constant criticism. Unfortunately, certain toxic personality types get a kick out of making other people feel. If you’re on the receiving end, you may find that you start second-guessing yourself, avoiding things you want to do. In the long run, it can affect your confidence and self-esteem. The irony is that typically, the person doing the criticising, does it because of their own feelings of low self-worth; by putting you down, they make themselves feel better. To counteract others' unhelpful criticism: 1. Have a bet with yourself about exactly what they are going to say and when. Forewarned is forearmed! 2. Don’t rise to it. Instead, smile because you saw it coming all along! 3. Think of some positive responses. You don’t have to be nasty, but you can be firm if you plan ahead. When you can have an educated guess about how they’re likely to react, you can plan for it. Motivational Moment No 49 - Managing Constant Criticism. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 49 - Managing Constant Criticism
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Many people have different values and rules than we do. Although it can be frustrating, it doesn't mean that they are wrong, and we are right; they’re just different. For example, you may have a friend who is consistently late, which drives you crazy. If you keep getting upset and angry with them when you know that’s their default behaviour; then it's you that has the problem, not them! You can, however, decide how you want to react when it happens. You know what they will do beforehand, so it’s up to you to manage your emotions or put plans in place to ensure that it doesn’t spoil things for you. No-one can make you feel a certain way; nobody has that amount of power. Avoid being held captive to your old, outdated conditioning. You can actively choose how you want to react – STOP GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER. Motivational Moment No 48 - Accept Other's Default Styles. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 48 - Accept Others Default Styles
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Conflict often occurs where we have the same values as someone else, but different rules around how we ‘live’ those values. Our ‘rules’ typically come from generations of conditioning. However, it doesn’t mean that ours are right, and others are wrong; they’re just different. The next time you find yourself locking horns with someone, but you know you have the same values, e.g. loyalty, trust, integrity, take a closer look at your rules – likely you’ll find that they are different. The good thing about rules is that you can change them. You don’t have to continue living with outdated ones that no longer serve you; simply make new ones. Remember, compromise is vital in any relationship, and as long as your values are similar, the rules you apply to them may not be as important as you think. Motivational Moment No 47 - Breaking the 'Rules'. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. If you could 'like', 'comment', 'share’, it really does make a difference! Thanks. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 47 - Breaking the 'Rules'
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We can’t always get along with everyone, that’s just life. I often hear, ‘You can't change others, but you can change yourself’. I think that’s only partially true. Technically, we can't change others; however, because our thoughts affect our behaviours, we automatically respond differently to someone once we change how we feel about them. As a result, they have to change in response. It’s an automatic process that occurs in the subconscious. The quickest and easiest way to do this is to visualise the person looking and sounding differently; the funnier the better. Practise visualising that 'modified' person repeatedly in as much detail as possible and notice how your feelings change toward them. When you feel differently, you'll behave differently. They won’t be able to pinpoint what’s altered, but likely they will change as a result. Motivational Moment No 46 - Change How You Feel About Someone. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. If you enjoy this content, 'like', 'comment', 'share’, really does make a difference! Thanks. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 46 - Change How You Feel About Someone
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Our brains do not recognise the word 'don't' when we use it as a command. As a result, our subconscious delivers the exact opposite of what we intended. For example, when you tell someone, 'Don't do X, Y, Z’, do you marvel at the fact that they do the exact thing that you've just asked them not to do? I’m sure you’ve also done it yourself; how many times have you touched paint when you’ve seen a notice stating, ‘Don’t touch. Wet paint’?! To avoid this, flip your sentences, consciously stating commands, in positive terms, removing the word 'don't'. For example, instead of saying, 'Don't trip!' say, 'Walk carefully.' Rather than, 'Don't drop that!' change it to, 'Carry that with both hands.' Swap, 'Don't fail', for, ‘I can do this'. It's a simple but incredibly effective tool that doesn’t take much effort but gives fantastic consistent results. Motivational Moment No 45 - Avoid Using 'Don't'. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. If you enjoy this content, if you could 'like', 'comment', 'share’, it really does make a difference! Thank you. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 45 - Avoid Using 'Don't'
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The words we use consistently, are extremely powerful and affect the overall quality of our lives. When you use negative, unempowering language not only does it make you feel bad, but it can also limit your success. Unfortunately, many of us have got into the habit of using overly dramatic or negative language, even when the situation doesn’t call for it. As a result, we can turn a relatively mild experience into something much worse, just through the use of inappropriately strong or harsh language. Our language also massively impacts our outcomes. I can instantly tell whether an athlete will win a race based purely on what they say. Over the next few days, tune into what you’re saying to yourself and others. Consciously replace strong, emotive, or negative language with something less potent and more empowering. By doing that, not only will you feel better, but you’ll be more likely to be successful. Motivational Moment No 44 - Watch Your Language. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 44 - Watch Your Language
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It's essential to be alert when you find yourself in the company of negative people, as it's incredibly easy to get influenced by their distorted thinking, and unwittingly pulled into their drama (behaviour breeds behaviour!). One specific thing to be mindful of is getting drawn into a 'my life is worse than yours' competition. We’ve all done it at some point; someone starts telling you how bad their life is and you respond with, 'You think that's bad, listen to this…!' If you find yourself competing in this way, stop and think, 'Is this something I want to win?' I know I don't! I'm more than happy to let someone else beat me at that game; no matter how competitive I am. Step aside and graciously hand over the metaphorical winner's trophy to the other person, and walk away with your self-esteem and positivity intact. Motivational Moment No 43 - 'My Life's Worse Than Yours!'. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 43 - The 'My Life's Worse Than Yours' Competition
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Complaining is an insidious habit which is not good for us or those around us. Start to take notice of the thoughts you're having and how you communicate them. If you recognise that you like to complain, make a conscious effort to stop. Your subconscious mind listens to everything you say, and if you are consistently negative (especially when there's no real need to be), that's how you will feel – where focus goes energy flows. When you notice that you're complaining, ask yourself some empowering questions: • What's really going on here? Is it as bad as I think? Is what I'm saying/thinking true? • What can I see that could be positive? • What do I need to do to turn this into a positive? When you CHOOSE to stop complaining, you'll also be far more pleasant to be around. Humans naturally gravitate away from negative people and towards positive ones (away from pain and towards pleasure). Be someone that others want to be around, not avoid! Motivational Moment No 42 - Stop Complaining. Excerpt from my new book 100 Motivational Moments, available NOW on Amazon. Click the link to buy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1702293289?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 For more information visit my website at http://jobanks.net #emotionalintelligence #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #mindfulness #mentalhealth #executivecoach #resiliencecoach #stressfree #stressrelief #stressreduction #stressmanagement #resilience #mentaltoughness #dailyinspiration #100MM #100motivationalmoments #wellbeing #wellbeingtraining #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellness
Motivational Moment No 42 - Stop Complaining
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